Dear Seven:

I see. What is clear to me is that you are suffering and have been suffering for a long time. It is understandable to me why you are suffering, living with a person who harms you.

I also understand that economic and political conditions are different in different countries. This is why people immigrate, move to other counties, for better lives. If that is possible for you, I hope you do that.

I agree with what you wrote in your post before last: your situation is bad, in reality. It doesn’t only seem that way. And hugging an enemy rarely transforms (does it ever) the enemy. Maybe shocks the enemy into a moment of warmth or empathy, maybe. And hugging has not yet stopped a smoker from smoking, not that I know.

anita