Dear Tom:

You asked for advice. My advice: if you choose to continue this beginning relationship, keep getting to know her. Observe and learn, over time.

She told you that she had “a one night thing” months ago, got pregnant and didn’t know she was pregnant until one week ago, and now the pregnancy is too far along to be terminated. It is possible that what she told you was true. It is also possible that parts of it are not.

When a woman does have a one night stand, one or a few, unprotected,  and her period is late, I would think the woman might get concerned about being pregnant and get one of those very inexpensive pregnancy tests available at any pharmacy, over the counter. At 30, she didn’t think of it? Possible.

anita