Dear Anita,

He’s the middle child out of five boys. Two brothers are married and two have been in long term (at least 5 yrs) girlfriends. He’s the only one without a gf or had any very long term gfs.  He didn’t ever speak negatively about his parents to me, maybe a closer relationship with his mother than father. His parents, at least his mom was very strict.  He told me incidents where she’d watch them all until they finished  – meals or homework. No messing around.

We rarely talked about how he feels about any topics. He’s fairly calm on the surface and doesn’t like to talk about anything negative.  That’s one thing that bothers me is that he avoids any negative confrontations. He did things to make me happy in order to avoid confrontations. I’m not a demanding person but I nag sometimes.  I believe he’s been in denial when it comes to love. He loves deeply but denies it in order to maintain his lifestyle – not making compromises to email or call. Relationships take time and effort and he doesn’t want to compromise (didn’t do it for exes either). He has deep emotions just like everyone else.  He got emotional when I broke down. There’s absolutely no reason for me to believe what we shared was fickle. He aches in private and alone.  I hope he finds peace and love.