Dear Carla:

You wrote: “I realize this is cold, I care very little if they’re part of my life anymore”- I do not think at all that this is cold of you. I have terminated contact with my mother four years ago. It would have been so much better for me if I did so forty years ago. Thing is, four years of no contact and I am more empathetic to people then I was before, warmer, so to speak.

Regarding being a difficult angry child- I don’t believe children are born angry and difficult, perhaps in very extreme cases, but far from usually. I think that an angry and difficult child is a reaction, it happens after a child reaches out to her parents with nothing but love, receiving back… something other than love.

anita