Hi,

Poppy- Thanks for your response, I found it very useful. I agree that there is some truth in wanting to keep that tie as and when it is convenient for him. I read all of those famous quotes such as “never allow someone to treat you as an option” etc and I think thats where my frustration creeps in as who wants to be treated like that. I am annoyed at myself for taking control and being the overfunctioner. I dont want to be involved in something that has no future. I find myself trying to second guess the situation and whether it is worth waiting around or “taking it slow” and not rushing into anything is worth it, would it lead where I want it to? Given his work situation I can see that being some time off. And now I am not sure there is even any coming back from this, from a male perspective I am sure this is the last thing they “need”.

Anita- Not following through refers to in the past things starting off strong and then somewhere along the lines changing minds etc. Which of course happens, but nonetheless sad. I am unclear on what you have said means for my expectations and what I find acceptable, is there not a line in terms of being understanding that clarity, expectations and people are fluid and a line of what I should personally accept as a way of being treated or interacted with?