Dear Anita,

Yes, in the relationship, I would avoid confrontation by apologizing over the little things, like –

“I’m sorry I did not spend more time with you.” – even though I knew I had other priorities at that time.

“I’m sorry I did not come help you with the oil change.” – I was actually mad because this was such a small thing that she could have done herself but she got mad at me for saying no to her. In the hindsight, I could have been more understanding though.

Sometimes, she would act childish, and I would have to just bear it because I did not want to fight with her. In the hindsight though, I miss those times.

I can’t remember anything major at this time, maybe because there wasn’t anything major or serious or too big because we did not actually name our relationship as gf/bf.

All in all, in the relationship, there was nothing that wasn’t easily workable. I just wasn’t in the mindset to accept her. It might be because of my other priorities in life. As I mentioned earlier, I was and still going through another issue in my life. It has been over a year and half that the issue came to surface. I can’t discuss it online, but I will tell you that the issue was a life-altering situation that is still ongoing. Over these past year and a half, I went through depression, as well as weight loss, sleep loss, hairloss, appetite loss. I am still suffering from that. I might have made a different decision if I was otherwise happy in my life. Since, other aspects of my life weren’t that good, I subconsciously drove everything away that wasn’t a priority.

That’s the regret part – I should have made her my priority.

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