Anita,

Exactly. When i leave, then I’m valued. Then office, sleep, friends, I’m above everything else, like i said, when i leave, he gives me the love that I wanted when i was with him. So then it makes me feel that all his ‘busy’ stuff are all excuses, all a manifestation of him not valuing me enough as he’s able to love me amid all that when i Leave but till I’m with him, I’m nowhere in his priority list.

But I cannot do this all my life right, Anita, i can’t keep leaving him to make him show me love. Like people earlier said in posts, I’ve tried telling him what I want and told him how badly his behavior towards me hurts, I also questioned him how everything falls in place and he gets time to call me when I’m gone. Sometimes he understands, at other times he behaves as if I’m exaggerating, but in both situations, the result is the same, the moment I melt and get back, he again treats me badly within a month. I really want a life with him but i feel I’m in a maze, I can see no way to make him understand this.