Dear Jen:

When he hung up the phone on you when you were crying, when he didn’t answer your multiple calls all through the days, then went to a party without checking on you all through the day and night, knowing you were distressed,  this behavior is not because he doesn’t understand, I believe. This behavior means he doesn’t care… he doesn’t melt, using your word. It means he doesn’t have that feeling that you have for him.

You cannot produce this feeling in him, this caring. You cannot teach him to care for you.

And so, I think it is best for you to end contact with him, not for the purpose of teaching him what is impossible to teach, but for the purpose of ending the relationship all together and availing yourself for a future loving relationship with a man who does care for you.

anita