Dear  Bismahanwar:

Better deal with a small thing and resolve it instead of adding it to other small things and eventually explode.

First small thing (maybe not small) is your ID, when the friend asked you to let her use it, and you felt uncomfortable to do so, better tell her as soon as possible: “No, I feel uncomfortable doing so”. If she argues with you, you repeat: “No, I feel uncomfortable”. You can add: “I hope you find access in another way.”

Second small thing: when the other friend said she doesn’t want to get involved, it is her right and  it reads reasonable to me, fair. Just because you would have gotten involved in a similar situation, doesn’t  mean it is the right thing to do and  that she should too. It is similar to this:  maybe the friend in the paragraph above, maybe she is comfortable to let another person use her ID card. It doesn’t  mean that you shouldn’t  feel uncomfortable about her using your card, does it?

The first friend has the  right to feel comfortable and you have the right to feel uncomfortable. Same thing with the second friend: she has the right  to feel and think that she  doesn’t  want to get involved.

Let  me know what you think about my input so far.

anita