Dear Anita,

Actually yes, when my husband is feeling sad and crying. He often turns to my daughter for someone to talk to . It makes me so upset he does that. It also adds fuel to the hate she already has for me. Right after the affair, we went to counseling to work it out. It was not my first affair either. I cheated on him the first year we were married too. After that first affair, I was 100% committed to repairing the marriage. We came out of it better than ever. This second affair 18 years later, I’m not feeling committed to the marriage. In counseling, he was trying and I just was not. Then I decided to leave.

Allison