x,

Well it has been a very interesting couple of weeks, work got crazy and was taking a lot of my energy. I have not spoken to my wife concerning Jay since the last time I wrote on here. I got tired of that situation constantly being in the front of my mind. I took up a daily meditation and breathing practice which allowed me 20 minutes a day to just let things go. IT has really worked great. I have come to the understanding that if she is going to step out with Jay than it is something that she will have to deal with the consequences of her actions. With the help of all of those posts that I wrote and your replies allowed me to get to a place where I was able to let go of the jealousy. I have not told her of the writing here, I thought that it was something that I needed, but that if she asks I would be okay sharing and showing her what I have written. She has not shared with me what she writes Jay, and at first it bothered me and I think it actually made things worse. Now that I don’t think about it and worry about it It is not really a thing. Now she could be planning something, but I don’t think so, and if that is what she wants then we deal with the outcomes once it happens.

We still have ups and downs, but I would say that the arrow is pointing up in general. We communicate a whole lot better, I am way more open about things that bother me and we are spending more time together. We still have things to work on, but we are in a position to discuss those things.

Thank-you so much for all of the insights and allowing me a space to explore these feelings. I hope all is well for you.

Matt