Dear Anita,

You have made some excellent points. My father was and alcoholic growing up. So my husband always  said aren’t you glad I’m not like your Dad out in a bar. That is what he used constantly to justify what a good husband he was and use his sobriety as a crown of some sort. I have to admit  to you, in the last year, feeling lonely in my marriage I too have become a functional alcoholic just as my father was.  So I became the scapegoat as you will with our marriage failing. The focus is all on me, never on him. My family feels my husband can do no wrong. But they haven’t lived with him for 25 years.

Allison