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Anything honestly. Just a mash up of the past 2 days.
I tell him that my friend was going to come over to the house. Ya kno just being courteous and letting him be aware. My friend had to stay at work a little later than they thought though and got hungry so they wanted me to meet them at a restaurant. Which was what they wanted to do originally but I said no because I am saving my money. But they were hungry enough to be like I’ll buy. So I text him and tell him because he was working late and hadn’t communicated with me when he would be home. Its probably about 7:40pm. I have been off since 5 right. So I tell him “Hey I am going to meet Jimmy (Gay BFF) at Griffs. Then we are coming back to the house. I will see you when we get back since your still camping out at work”
GIRL. …Mad
All of a sudden he comes at me like “Damn Aite” and Im just confused. Whats to damn about right? You aren’t even here. So we go back and forth thru text for a minute while I am still trying to get out the house as well to meet my friend. And he on some “Oh well I guess Ill go find something else to do” Blah blah blah. I call him while I was driving and he basically tries to imply (because he knows everything) that I ALWAYS knew we were going to eat I just didn’t say anything. NEGATIVE. I was laying in the bed with a Tshirt on waiting for Jimmy to say he was down stair so I could put pants on. Literally I had no clue but there isn’t any arguing with him. He just says Im talking in circles and he doesn’t want to hear it. So I go to dinner we come back in literally a hour and he isn’t there. I call him he said he went to get something to eat. probably 1-1/2 later I call again he says hes at his moms about to be back. He comes in as Jimmy is leaving around 11pm. He comes in with just a stank attitude. Doesn’t want to give me a hug. When he gets mad he wont hug me or kiss me and stuff.
That night he wanted to argue just picking at anything ya know. Then yesterday just picking and poking at anything to go back and forth about.
Girl. I asked him lastnight if he wanted to meditate with me right. He said yea. I have a Meditation basics app on my phone that teaches you how to meditate so I grab my phone. Hes like “Oh nah! Im not doing that. You don’t need a app. you rely on the internet for everything” Blah blah blah. I’m just taken a back like Im confused. ” Meditation IS A SKILL. You have to learn it! Oh I thought you was going to tell us what to do blah blah. I was like no. I don’t know how that well yet. MEDITATION is a LEARNED SKILLLLL! literally he just didn’t get it. I just got mad it made my anxiety go off the scale because WHY is it that serious.
He slept on the couch smh. Then this morning he didn’t come in the room to tell me he left work work (6am cuz Im still sleep). Anytime were on good terms and usually even on bad sometimes he will come in and say “Im gone” *HUG* *KISS*
Not today tho!
I text him like “Why do I feel you do things purposely to hurt me” He says I don’t—next msg– just like you don’t.
Im like this is literally a big adult game of “I know you are but what am I?”
He does the silent treatment a lot. He’s gotten better about it because I flipped out about it.
He gets mad when he doesn’t feel “special.” or like I didn’t think about him.
Changes in plans REALLLLLY annoys him hence the beginning story. Because I went to dinner with another friend of mine a few days before that and no issue.
He gets mad if I don’t text him back in a certain amount of time (unknown time because it literally depends on his mood) Things I literally have no control over.
He gets really irritated when I miss his phone calls which bothers me because I feel this need to constantly check my phone ya know. Out of my natural want to do it.
His feelings are facts in a nutshell.