Hi Anita,

You wrote “When you need to punish yourself, hating yourself, that means you are angry at yourself, believing you deserve pain, that you are a bad person, isn’t it so?”

Yes I agree to some extend I do believe that I need to punish myself. My sub conscious mind has endured lot of trauma as I believed that I caused cancer to myself. I don’t smoke cigarette and live pretty health lifestyle but still cancer was caused. And somewhere deep down there I believe that I caused this still. Hence there is this guilt, need to punish type feeling that is hampering my progress.

Please help me to challenge these stupid beliefs so I can change myself and become more loving and kind person towards my ownself. I always believed that “self love”, “being kind to own-self” etc. is bit of feminist type thing and for soft people.

But considering mental trauma that I have gone through and considering my mental health I believe it’s time to embrace these concepts. I don’t know how it will happen but I am trying. Please let me know your thoughts on this. Feel free to let me know your ideas as I am really glad to discuss.