Dear   Jenny Lynn:

No, it  doesn’t read  too far gone to me. Before you suggest that he talks to  someone, be that someone, for him. But make it a two way street. You are not in the position to be his therapist, better  not try that. Here is the key, the  hope I see in your relationship with him: present  it to him that you need him as much as he needs you. Present it to him that you can help each other, that you need his help as much as he  needs your help.

After  all, you struggle with things too. Not the same- you may be okay  with  him having  alone times  with potential friends, but you have your own problems, your own challenges where  he doesn’t.  There are some challenges you do share, being very similar or the same.

I think that it is only  if and  following some better  communication between the two of  you, that suggesting he sees  a therapist will be a good  idea. Maybe by then you will figure you should see one as well. A couple therapist of quality can be of great help to teach the  two of you effective communication and conflict resolution.

Maybe you can check if there are blogs on the Home Page  regarding basic communication skills, or  other place.

anita