Dear Nisago:

It  is unreasonable to expect joy to last and last with no interruptions, a spark to be always on. But from you stated that you are not experiencing a lack of joy but that you turned cold, neutral, not motivated, emotionally, to continue the relationship- this is a problem. If you have a beautiful relationship, a loving relationship, one that is alive, there should be an emotional motivation to keep it going.

I don’t know if your neutralized state is about who she is and the nature of the relationship with her or it is about prior experiences you had, before you met her. For example, you may have witnessed a “dead”, unloving relationship between your parents, and that experience neutralized you in the context of your present relationship.

What do you think/ feel about my input here?

anita