Dear calisiter:

A note: I don’t read minds, of course. So this is my understanding, based on my life experience, including our communication. What I type to you is offered for your consideration and evaluation. I may be wrong about this or that, so let me know.

Regarding this very point I am addressing here, I am guessing. I am not sure about it. (Other items I am sure):

So I am guessing this: your mother enjoys mountains. But there is no space in her brain wondering or caring if you enjoy mountains. She enjoys them and her enjoyment needs to be accommodated by you.

Similar to the guests: she enjoyed them while you had to accommodate her by killing time alone.

So, here are the mountains, your habit of the mind is: I have a job to do, and so you cannot relax and just be or let it be. You have a job to do!

anita