Dear ManinBlack:

Reads to me that your girlfriend needs to keep her “good girl” image with her parent and friends. The good girl image is not sexual. As long as it was a secret for you, an affair of a married man, it suited her. She needed it to be a secret all along.

Now that you are divorced, well, she still needs it to be a secret. Only it is no longer a secret, not for you.

I suppose if you did go back to your wife and re-started the relationship with your girlfriend as a secret lover, that would work for her. Not a good idea, though.

What will you do?

anita