Dear Reve:

Yes, I went to  therapy. If it is quality therapy, it will help you make a choice and come to peace with it. I think it will lead you to realize that no matter how fearful you are of being alone, without him, it is the right thing for you to  do, that is, to end the relationship.

I agree with your boyfriend, that his cheating is not about you, not because he is not satisfied with you. On the other hand I don’t believe that he cheated on you because “of the whole environment and friends” he had/ has. I think he cheated on you, and is likely to continue to cheat on you because he likes to have sex with different women.

It is not that he thinks of this or that woman as better than you. He thinks of her as different: a different body to enjoy, a different experience, something new and exciting.

This is not a rare inclination of a young man. It  could be worked on, maybe. Problem is the manipulation you mentioned, the lying. Seeing you as troubled as you were over his cheating, he was willing to inflict more pain on you, the pain of confusing you with lies.

Yes, I think quality therapy will help you end this relationship.

anita