Dear Stella:

A couple of things.

One I am not sure about and hope you will find out if I am correct: I think that the problem for a potential employer looking at a resume of a potential employee is not the frequent changes of jobs (it is the nature of the modern job market that people change jobs, unlike in the past when the norm was a person spending a life time in one job), but the gaps of unemployment in between jobs that is the problem. A long gap in between jobs, or frequent gaps turn employers off. Again, I hope you check this out.

Two, I think it is fine (and would be fine with me if I was an employer, which I am not) that you are discovering through experience, what you value in the workplace- and therefore what you excel at. You value friendships, communicating, chatting.. that works in certain jobs, a plus but not in others. So it would be okay with me if you quit a job that is not a good fit for you.

Another thing, Three, I suppose: if you stay at a job you dislike, having a boss yell your name disrespectfully, being unhappy in this job, that will harm your mental health, which… may bring about that gap in employment. Better change jobs while you are well, not yet too distressed by a long, long struggle to survive a distressing to you job.

anita