Dear calisister:

I mean, and this is my understanding at this point (I am open to your input, correcting my understanding if you believe I am wrong), that I don’t think you should spend any time alone with a man who may be a dating or relationship option. By protecting I mean that because you talk and act out of control in the alone context, I am afraid that you will not be  able to avoid for example, unprotected sex, an STD, further emotional harm.

It will be a good practice for you to practice self control in public, with a man who is a dating option. Only after some practice of being able to thoughtfully choose what you say, having a mature back and forth conversation where you listen and he listens and you understand each other as equal adults, then maybe. But you are not there yet.

I will be at the computer for a while longer. Let me know if you understand my input and if you disagree.

anita