Dear calisister:

Dating is far from being a priority at this point. The rotation is the priority to attend to. Neither is understanding your childhood and your parents a priority. And so, a daily practice rule book idea is a good idea, I believe.

To start, you have to eliminate and minimize all other stressors in your  life so to maximize your focus on the rotation to come. Eliminate anything that can be eliminated if it causes you distress. Make a list of distressing activities to be eliminated or minimized. Including a list of people to not interact with, or to minimally interact with.

Then make a list of relaxing activities that are effectively relaxing long term, not only short term.

Make a daily routine schedule (to be adjusted over time as you learn what works and what doesn’t and as circumstances change). Much of your schedule is predetermined for you in this rotation. Whatever time you have open to your choosing, schedule it, structure it.

If you want, make these lists here and suggest a daily routine, at least a partial one.

anita