Dear LotusLeaf:

You wrote that sister 2 is “very mentally ill, disabled, lives alone (and I assume dislikes living alone)

She told you that it causes her sadness and pain that you, her and sister 1 do not spend time together. You feel guilty that sister 2 is unhappy.

This is my thought: if you did re-connect with sister 1, and the three of you spent time together, sister 2 would still be unhappy because she will still be very mentally ill, disabled and living alone. At best you would bring a smile to her face for a moment or two.

If your “good sister” told you repeatedly that the choice you made to cut sister 2 out of your life, a choice that makes you happy, is making her unhappy, well… that is not very loving of her, is it.

Congratulations for ending all contact with a person who was abusive to you and to your husband!

anita