Dear calisister:

I don’t think it was a mistake on your part to post here. I will not be using your sharing against you and neither will your sister, I believe. I did get to know you, through time, and much in the last couple of days. I learned and I will be glad to share and explore with you what I learned. It is your choice whether to communicate with me, or not, whether to explore and learn with me, or not.

The way I see it, at this point, is that you need to take personal responsibility for your healing. Yes, I believe you have been throwing temper tantrums of sorts, crying wolf, in a way, and unnecessarily distressing your sister. It is not her responsibility to heal you, nor is she able to. It is not fair for you to unload your distress on her as a way for you to feel better for a little while.

You mentioned psychotherapy recently, and I believe that is necessary for you. Not all psychotherapists are created equal, and you will need to be selective, but quality, hard working, dedicated, empathetic and wise therapist will be the person to truly help you.

Thank you for your kind words. You are welcome to post again, anytime.

anita