Dear Maria:

The friends that tell you that you are lucky not being in a committed relationship, I guess they are not happy in their relationships. So the strategy you can develop for yourself should be aimed at a relationship where you will be happy. One principle in that strategy is that you allow the man to feel whatever he feels and that he lets you feel whatever you feel. No… Feelings Police.

And so, when a potential partner doesn’t say the exact words you need to hear, you don’t fall apart.

There is much more to the strategy I am suggesting you develop. It will require practice, starting small, practicing such things as assertiveness and personal responsibility.

I need to get away from the computer soon for about seventeen hours. If you would like to share your ideas about such a strategy, please do. There are also resources on the subject, lots of books and such about relationships. Some of those resources may be helpful to you. I have nothing specific to suggest.

If you reply to me, I will reply again, when I am back.

anita