This is very true. I’ll not do that comparison.

So any tips on how I can try to attend to his moodiness but not absorb it.

He is really sour sometimes and some of the things he does when I am trying to just be nice makes me get irritated and it escalates things.

Should I just leave him alone?

That’s what I did yesterday. I gave a valorous effort to see what was wrong with him. We bickered for a second and I swooped us up right out of that and de-escalated it. He came a little around later in the evening.

But this morning same moodiness I was talking to him. He clearly heard me and ignored me. I just looked at him got up and finished getting ready in the living room and came back in to tell him bye and he still was acting silly.

Thru messages now he seems ok. But you never know till you see him. So I guess I will find out in 4 hours.

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But I agree after this week of him working I am going to inquire on what is financial stressors are. What we have to do to be stable and start saving and what my expectations are of him as well financially.

He kind of disappointed me a little Anita. The fact that he put us in a financial strain like that. Even making me feel like he wouldn’t have his half of the rent knowing I don’t make enough money to pay his share of everything. When I am getting up every morning for 6 weeks going to work and your still in the bed. I would really wonder “what did he do all day?” Like you could have been doing Uber all this time. I just don’t know what he was thinking.

I felt like he kept saying and implying that money was low, but was doing nothing to help it.

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BIG AND SMALL Shar.

When I am act small. Examples of me being small (I may exhibit any 2 of these at anytime); When I act introverted. Homebody like. I don’t interact with other people. I am barely on my phone. Like hes basically my whole life.

When I know in my head. truthfully I am a extrovert, I am just depressed. I am the life of the party, 97.5% of people like me. I have my friends that I see often, I go out, I socially interact with people, I DO WHAT I WANT, I have male friends, I touch my phone OR NOT touch my phone whenever I want. If I want to get up at 12am and go to Jimmys house I do. If I want to go out with my girl friends & stay out till 3am I would do that.

He got to know me when I acted the least like who I was, ever in my life. Sometimes I wonder if he fell in love with that girl. and that’s why we conflict sometimes because when I do something out of that “small” frame he takes it like I am not being genuine.

But I don’t want to be who I am right now. I don’t like her. She’s boring and needs to get a life (all jokes aside).

I wont stay this way just because it makes him uncomfortable, because this isn’t who I am. I feel not myself.

But its been so long its hard to see I forget sometimes and then I see something like a old photo of myself and I just am like “hey! I liked her!!”

I don’t remember when the switch in my head flipped and I revolved my choices around him but I know it was before I was in a relationship with him though.