@Cat,

That’s definitely a hard “yikes” on her behaviour. How have your other co-workers dealt with her? Did they bring up the issue to HR, as well? What was your manager’s opinion about the whole situation?

It’s difficult to have the best of both worlds; either the person has a great personality, but poor work ethics, or vice versa. I find it upsetting that people who, like you said, have a lack of awareness aren’t willing to put themselves in other people’s perspectives. Sometimes, what might be the worst decision, but bring the best result is to physically remove ourselves from an environment that’s deeply affecting us in a negative way… but it’s easier said than done though. A toxic environment we’re both experiencing hinders our opportunity for growth.

As for Barbz, I found it easier to ignore her like the way she’s doing to me because that way, I don’t have to worry about my life co-existing with hers. However, the problem is I’m still quite affected by her because she makes it obvious she has no willingness to improve her personality. My other co-workers who speak Cantonese/Mandarin know when to switch their language to English, so that everyone else can join, or at least, understand the conversation too.

I wish you the best at your work, Cat! I’m hoping you do find another job where a behaviour like your co-worker or Barbz aren’t allowed to prosper.