Dear Running:

In summary of the Wednesday example: On Wednesday you texted him to ask to meet up. He told you that he was unavailable. Later you found out that the reason he was unavailable to meet you is that he chose to meet a woman who is flirting with him in the workplace for the purpose of telling her to stop flirting with him and for the purpose of promoting their ongoing friendship. His meeting with her lasted for hours. He talked to her about his relationship with you and told her that you and him broke up.

The account he told you does not read truthful to me. It reads to me that he lied to you. What in his account was true and what was a lie, I don’t know. People who habitually lie do not lie all the time, for one, and then when they do lie, they mix lies and truth. There is no way to figure out what was true and what was a lie unless one does research, hires maybe a private investigator to follow the person, dig out public records about the person, and other methods private investigators use.

Back to his account: maybe he met her, maybe he did not. If they met, maybe they talked for hours maybe they did something else for hours. Maybe… maybe..

It is a very difficult job to separate lies from truth and it is an unnecessary, tiring and unrewarding work (unless one is paid well as a private investigator who charges well for his or her services).

Without such ability, to separate the two, you are indeed “stuck not moving forward” (title of your thread).

You wrote earlier in your post: “Eventually he said he was going to break up with her/ did break up with her (?) it was never clear (?)”- you need these answers and he didn’t give you honest answers so far. Not likely that he will.

What do you think of my reply to you?

anita