Dear Mathilde-S:

You wrote: “the story might seem ridiculous to some, but it is how I feel  it”- your feelings are not ridiculous, your story, your life experience is not ridiculous.

A summary of your story: September last year you met a guy at a house party. He was “very protective, gentle, caring, extremely sweet to you. He called you almost every night and stayed over often. After a few weeks of that he called you less often and started expressing slight anger with you (annoyance). He told you: “You’re not the most important thing in my life”, and “we’re (not) on the same page”. When you ended the relationship he said: “Sounds perfect to me”. The relationship ended November (my calculation), a two months relationship.

You wrote that being with him (in the first few weeks) was “the most heart-filling situation I’ve experience”, and later you wrote that you didn’t manage to “fill a void” created by him not being in your life.

That void preceded him, was there before you met him. Temporarily, his presence filled that void and it felt wonderful.

I am wondering about his anger at you, his annoyance evident in what he told you, those quotes you mentioned. What do you think brought that about?

I wonder if you pressured him to spend more time with you, if you applied pressure on him in some way.

anita