Anita,

Wow definitely I do remember refusing his hugs a lot. I also remember me and my younger sister used to fight a lot – very badly. Like you said a parent passes on that aggression.

By the way I’m still in contact with my father and after everything I forgave him. I think I feel sorry for him in a way. Sometimes I wonder about his childhood and if he went through some form of abuse. Another thing I remember was my father calling me weak for being emotional. This led me to hold in my emotions til this very day. Our relationship is not strong. He’ll occasionally meet me to give me money and he will ask me if I’m eating healthily and looking after myself well. He only calls me to arrange a time to meet up to give me money. Sometimes I feel guilty he gives me money all the time but deep down I know I shouldn’t feel guilty.