Dear ella:

You are welcome.

You wrote that your mother “said that (your father)  is always trying to make her look like the bad one in front of me”- I think she is doing a good job at it (looking like the bad one) all by herself.

I do understand that in comparison to her, your father is indeed great. It is such a good thing when a parent admits wrongs. (My goodness, my mother never admitted wrongdoing!) and for otherwise validating you (as in saying he agrees with you)

(You mentioned Marakesh, morocco earlier, is that where you are from? If so I would like to share something with you)

Yes, I think a lot of your anxiety was caused by the ways your mother treated you. She should  have protected you from your uncle, from the bullies in school and … from herself.

anita