Dear KD:

Whatever regrets he offered have been neutralized, that is, cancelled when he told you that his neglect was “for (your) own good”, do you agree? When he justifies his long, long term choice to not be in your life, he further cancel the regrets he expressed.

I don’t know of a possible way to be in contact with a person who hurt you that badly without clear and sincere regret as well as real efforts to show those words are indeed sincere.

It is not healthy of course, to be stewing in anger on and on and on. There has to be a resolution to the hurt underneath the anger. Maybe you can think of a resolution that will work for you…?

anita