Dear Hannah:

Is your husband interested in getting back together with you, did he express that to you?

It reads like an honest share, regarding his past anger and passive aggressive expressions of his anger then. You wrote that you are not sure if it will be a win-win. This is why I suggested that there will have to be a lot of talking.

If he still gets angry when talking about difficult but valid subjects, you can try talking for short periods of time about such, talk in small portions.

I wouldn’t consider getting back together without significantly improved communication over time.

And then, there is this other relationship going on. You have doubts about it. If you would like, if you think it may be helpful to you, you can share about that.

anita