Dear Not-so-lost-star:

You wrote, and these were your words if I remember correctly, that the power differential between your parents was huge. He appeared the Strong one and she appeared the Weak one. He was dominant, she was submissive. He brought in the money and she appreciated it so much that she believed submission is appropriate. She taught you that.

As the child that you were, if you perceived him as the strong one and your mother as the weak one, didn’t you feel safe with the strong one being there?

This feeling of safety with him, it may be subtle (not much in awareness) but there… is what I am thinking.

anita