Dear norit:

Welcome back. The relationship reads like a good one to me, other than you breaking up with him three times.

You wrote that you met him in the context of a support group and are aware of each other’s mental illness. Please do not be too attached,  if you can, to you being mentally ill as well as to him being the same. Healing is possible. Mental illness is often not a life sentence. It is possible for you to keep healing, restart the healing process. Patience with the process, patience in times of distress, persistence through distress, not giving up, is necessary and possible.

December 2016, you wrote about your mother, that she was/ is “obsessing over how others or myself live our lives, and whether it’s right or wrong”- can you elaborate on that?

anita