Dear Jenny Lynn:

“I am so sorry I said you are ___” are the first words he should tell you, not “are you sure you don’t want to talk about it”- an apology, sincere, one that he initiates, not one pressured to express.

I know you invested a lot of time and energy in this relationship, and that is the sad part. But it is not working for you. If you look back to the whole experience, read your own posts, you became more and more depressed while living with him, not leaving the apartment for days at a time, all weekends, right? Not socializing.. it hasn’t been good to you.

I think it is time to end it. Let him go. If you invest more time, more energy, you will be losing … more time. Cut your losses now.

I am still uneasy about some of his stalking behaviors in the past and I wonder if you should take some precautions about moving out, making it a smooth event.

anita