Dear Tom:

When people say to depressed people: ‘You’ve got nothing to be depressed about”, or to anxious people: you’ve got nothing to be anxious about”- these are ignorant statements. People who say it are not able to … follow their advice when they are depressed or anxious, or both.

The comparisons people make are also not realistic. When you are suffering from X, you only know X. You don’t have parallel lives and parallel experiences of Y and Z as well. You only have X. So you can’t compare. Same for others.

You don’t trust people, I understand. Many people are not trustworthy. Are you trustworthy? Make sure that you are, that you keep your word, that you behave in a way that is right (not submitting to abuse, that is not right). If you are trustworthy, there are a few others out there who are trustworthy as well.

Be selective, learn who this or that person is and proceed with caution, wisely.

anita