Dear gj:

I think that you did an excellent job becoming aware of these two separate fear: the fear of what others, like your boss, think about you and the fear of losing your job. Reads like the first fear is greater than the second and I am not surprised that it is.

I am not surprised because the reason for the first fear is that you received criticism already, as a child, correct? So that danger is something you are familiar with, as it already happened many times.

On the other hand, I don’t know if you lost a job before, so that danger may not have happened yet.

It is my experience that although we do fear what didn’t happen yet, we fear the most what already happened.

What do you think?

anita