Dear Jenny Lynn:

What motivated your best friend was anger (“irritated with him”). This is what is motivating Glenn. This is my best understanding: he believes that you have wronged him and he feels angry at you. He is stubborn, meaning he is stuck in that anger, not moving on to resolve it. The only way to maintain a relationship with him is that-

every time he perceives that you wronged him, he is not open to reconsideration, to examine evidence and evaluate his first perception. There is nothing you can do to make such a re-evaluation happen, in his brain.

He perceives that you wronged him and he does not change his mind. He knows it because he told you long ago that if the two of you no longer live together, he will have no contact with you. He knows that he will be angry with you forever more.

The price for a relationship with Glenn is to admit to him that you are wrong when you are not. Admit your wrongdoing whether you were wrong or not. Admit you were wrong because he said so, no matter how ridiculous (for example, he figured you were wrong for taking a shower when he figured you took a shower for … the wrong reason).

Always wrong. Wrong forever more- what a version of “she lived happily ever after”, isn’t it? “She lived wrong ever after” is what it is, with Glenn.

As anxious and stressed as you are, I hope you don’t…. live wrong ever after, forevermore.

Post anytime, when I take a break from the computer, sixteen hours or so later, I will get back to you.

anita