Dear Jenny Lynn:

You felt hypocritical, that you wanted commitment from John who wasn’t committed the way you needed him to be, and then, you found Glenn who was committed to you, and reacted to Glenn like John, not wanting to commit.

Thing is Glenn is not John and John is not Glenn. You were Jenny Lynn with John and Jenny Lynn with Glenn, but the two men were different. You somehow assumed, reads to me, that the two were the same.

You didn’t know Glenn well enough, all this time. I think you are getting to know him now. It will be a struggle to separate your wishful thinking of the past and the feelings that went with it from reality.

Look at the reality and when you find yourself lost in wishful thinking and the feelings that go with that wishful thinking, shift your focus to reality. Re-read the red sky/ blue sky analogy, again and again.

When you see your self red sky (Glenn is loving, wonderful, if only I, Jenny Lynn, was more loving etc., whatever it may be), close your eyes and open them again, seeing the blue sky (Glenn is angry, stubborn, unreasonable, was that way before he met me, will be this way after, impossible to have a good relationship with him)

anita