Dear Jenny Lynn:

Yes, it could have been worse, but you don’t have to go far from what happened to imagine something worse: like I suggested to you earlier, if you had a child with Glenn, oh, it would have been so very bad for that child. Not bringing a child into misery is a very good thing.

Your paragraph about food and gaining weight vs being addicted to opioids and having children, yes, I agree that the second is worse than the first, absolutely. To me bringing a child to misery, be it to a father stuck in anger or to drugs and dysfunction, is worst of all.

I don’t know if it is the right time to talk about that euphoric feeing you have about John, about remembering the time you had with him, but there is something there to learn from.

I don’t think, by the way, that things happen for a reason, as if someone is planning the events in our lives for the purpose of teaching us things (like a god..?). I think life is a great opportunity to learn, something that is available to us humans more than to any other animal. Things happen, a lot of it is random. Then we can learn and direct our lives so it is not as random, or we don’t learn.

anita