Dear Jenn:

Having unpaid student loans is such a common and huge problem in the U.S., at the least, probably a multi billion problem that there are probably different programs aimed at helping people pay those loans over a long, long time. There are I am guessing, tens of thousands, maybe more, people like you who ignore their loans. Again, got to be programs aimed at minimizing the damage done by ignoring these loans. So as you come out of hiding, in this regard, you will find out- I am thinking- that there are people in financial institutions who are waiting for you and may be competing for your business. Set up a few appointments and talk to the people about your getting married thoughts and concerns.

As far as your boyfriend, if you do want to be married with him, talk to him after some initial consultations with a couple of consultations (first paragraph), and take it from there. He may be impressed by your courage. And by your concern for him.

anita