Dear Asja:

You are welcome and I do hope that soon enough you will be comfortable, safe and comfortable.

You wrote about your husband that he gets angry, “without a reason”, or following things that are not important, says bad, rude things to you, threatens to hit you. You wanted to separate and divorce many times before. Three days ago you made the decision to separate. Since then he argued with you, trying to make you feel guilty, blaming you for his behavior and then changed to a “soft manner and looks sad”.

I suggest you proceed with the separation and arrange to live away from him as soon as possible, so to protect your daughter from the arguments and to no longer expose your daughter to his anger and to your resulting distress.

I suggest you tell your (soon to be estranged) husband that you need to live separately from him and that you will be able to talk with him sensibly after the separation. Tell him you are too distressed to be able to calmly talk with him, and therefore you have to live with your daughter separately first, before any discussions.

Do post again, anytime. I so would like to read that you and your daughter are safe and comfortable.

anita