Dear Debido:

I read your thread from a year ago, about this  very  relationship that  has  just ended. In this thread you asked for advice and tlc, that is tender, love  and care.

You are experiencing  emotional pain, understandably, following a long  term relationship ending. It will probably  be  helpful if you could attend a support group, people coming together to talk about their breakups, a place where you can talk about yours, about how you feel and listen to others being empathetic to you.

Forming a daily routine at this time, a routine that includes aerobic exercise such as a  long brisk walk outdoors every day, can also help. Comforting distractions such as listening  to music, hot baths, drawing (if you are so  inclined) and so forth, can also help. A whole lot.

anita