Dear urooz:

Let’s figure out what this is about first. I will tell you what I think it is about and you can tell me if I am correct partly or fully:

I think what you feel is about two things: emotional attachment to this man and betrayal. When we are separated from a person to whom we are emotionally attached, we become fearful, anxious. When you found out that he was married the separation perhaps became raw again, and more final than before.

But the other thing is betrayal. Three months ago, while he was already married, he told you that he loved you and he didn’t tell you that he was married. He didn’t tell you.

You feel angry at him and want to let him know that you found out, that you are not a fool.

Am I correct?

anita