Dear urooz:

I don’t think god is punishing you. Like I wrote in the earlier post to you, betrayal happens a whole lot. People who are innocent, young children, are often betrayed by the adults they naturally trust. Young children are not being punished, are they, for they did not betray anyone.

No need to apologize for wishing this man was punished. When we feel anger we want just that, that the person we are angry at will hurt.

If you call him, he is not likely to say something like: I am so sorry, urooz, let me make it up to you by..(?). There is not likely to be a resolution to your betrayal.

It hurts so let it hurt because it does. Feel the anger and accept it as a natural consequence of being hurt. And then attend to your marriage with a new sense of empathy and responsibility: protect your husband from experience the betrayal you are suffering from.

Treat your husband well, be worthy of his trust in you.

anita