Dear Jerry:

You wrote in your poem that your “heart was always in the right place”- I would like to know about that right place. I have ideas about what you may mean by it, but why assume when you can tell me, if you would like to.

You shared deep and meaningful things with girlfriends at the time, things that were honest and true to you. They betrayed your trust in them when they used what you told them against you, being aggressive that way.

I think that you freeze up at times because of that fear, to be betrayed again, to be attacked, experience aggression from others. Maybe at times you are too tired to experience that fear and “it just flows out of (you)”. The brain and body experiencing ongoing anxiety do take breaks.

Having experienced betrayal, there is no way to blindly trust again, like a young child does. Nor should a person blindly trust. Got to be selective. It is more about who you share with than what you share. Get to know a person over time before you share. And then, share gradually, a bit at a time and test the person.

Share more, anytime, bit by bit. I will not betray you, in my communication with you. I will not use what you share against you.

anita