Dear GC:

It is within the context of an intimate relationship that we have the greatest opportunity for self exploration, if we can endure the distress involved. Because the emotional injuries most of us suffer take place within the context of a relationship (most often with a parent/s), it is within the context of a relationship where we can heal.

If you indeed have “an avoidant anxious attachment style”, then it is very much a part of your experience with your boyfriend, any boyfriend.

You are struggling with not knowing how much of your anxiety is about your past before you met him, if any of your anxiety is about him being the wrong man for you, correct?

anita