Dear Masha:

You wrote (your girlfriend suggested to you that): “my home situation isn’t healthy. That my parents depend too much on their child. And honestly, it might be unhealthy.”

It may be true, what she suggested, which you considered yourself. If your mother depended on you too much before she got sick, that would be telling.

Thing is, the relationship with your girlfriend is not healthy either, is it? She complains to you about you. She didn’t present problems as things for the two of you to work on as a team.

Reads to me that her concern is being number one in your life, her concern is her position in your life, not your well being.

Am I correct?

anita