Hey Anita!

Thank you so much for your reply. Now that yyou put it this way, I am having an entire different view on things. I can understand why she is this way, it’s because of trauma. I now also am realizing that me listening to ger is only feeding her toxic way of thinking.

My therapist told me that if I want to be with her I need to be able to still hold on to what I find important. My family is the my most important thing ever

I can deal with my girlfriend, especially since I now get how she works.

The thing is, i have no idea how I can ever make this better with  my mom. I said some really hurtful things to my mom because I listened to my gf.